Adult Coping with Depressing During and After Pregnancy

What is depression during pregnancy and following the birth?

Learning about the symptoms of depression

Depression during pregnancy and following the birth of the baby affects a woman’s mood, behaviour, thoughts and physical well-being. A woman who is experiencing depression will often feel down, sad or empty and may lose interest in activities that she usually enjoys..

Common signs and symptoms of depression


  • feeling depressed or extremely sad most of the day nearly everyday
  • feeling irritable or angry
  • feeling very guilty or worthless
  • feeling hopeless
  • feeling overwhelmed
  • not enjoying the baby
  • not interested in or able to enjoy activities that you used to enjoy


  • sleeping a lot more or less than usual
  • eating a lot more or less than usual
  • withdrawing from family, friends and social contact

Physical Symptoms

  • crying for no apparent reason
  • feeling restless
  • having little energy
  • having difficulty concentrating or making decisions
  • having physical symptoms like headaches or upset stomach


  • having thoughts that you are a ‘bad’ or ‘terrible’ mother
  • having frightening thoughts including harming yourself and/or the baby

Depression during pregnancy and following the birth may be diagnosed by a health care professional if these symptoms last for more than two weeks, are distressing to the woman and/or make it difficult for her to carry out her daily activities, especially the demanding tasks involved in caring for an infant. Although the exact number of women affected by depression during pregnancy and following the birth is not known, research suggests that around 8-12% of pregnant women and 10-16% of women are affected by depression after having the baby.

What is the difference between the “baby blues” and depression?

The “baby blues” are experienced by approximately 80% of mothers within the first few days after the birth. Symptoms may include mood swings, crying, worrying, irritability, feelings of helplessness, sadness, anxiety and difficulties sleeping. In most cases, these symptoms resolve or improve on their own within a week or two and do not require treatment. However, if these symptoms last for more than two weeks or significantly affect the mother’s ability to carry out her daily activities, the mother may be experiencing depression.

 If I am depressed, why do I feel so anxious?

Many women who experience depression during pregnancy or following the birth will also have symptoms of anxiety. These range from excessive worries to overwhelming panic attacks. Having additional symptoms of anxiety may be something that makes depression during this time different than depression at other times in a woman’s life. However, a woman may experience symptoms of anxiety during pregnancy or following the birth without being depressed.

For some women, these symptoms of anxiety may be more of a problem than the symptoms of depression.

Common signs and symptoms of anxiety


  • feeling fearful, scared, upset or “on guard”
  • irritability
  • feeling keyed up or on edge


  • excessively repetitive behaviours (e.g., cleaning or washing)
  • avoiding people, places or activities
  • excessive checking or reassurance seeking or online ‘research’

Physical symptoms

  • trembling, twitching or feeling shaky
  • restlessness
  • becoming easily tired
  • difficulty concentrating or mind going blank
  • trouble falling or staying asleep
  • gas, constipation or diarrhea
  • being easily startled
  • shortness of breath or smothering sensations
  • racing and/or pounding heart
  • sweating or cold clammy hands
  • dizziness or lightheadedness


  • re-occuring thoughts or images of harm to the baby
  • unrealistic or excessive worry about the baby or other topics

A special note about harm thoughts

 The most disturbing thoughts experienced by a mother who is depressed or anxious may include fears or images of harm occurring to her baby either by accident or through her own actions (e.g. drowning the baby while bathing, dropping the baby over the balcony or stabbing the baby with a knife). In most cases the woman feels frightened by these thoughts and would never want to do anything to hurt her baby or act on these thoughts. However, she may have difficulty telling anyone that she is having these thoughts when in fact they are common to new mothers. If this is true of you it is important to talk to your health care provider so that you can get the help you need.

Why do some women develop depression during pregnancy or following the birth?

Many women are surprised and disappointed when they find themselves feeling depressed during their pregnancy or following the birth of their baby. After all, most people expect this time to be a joyous one — and for some women it is. But there are also a lot of other challenges and changes that can make depression more likely during this time than at other times in a woman’s life.

These include:

  • Changes in relationships with partner, family and friends.
  • Significant role changes in becoming a mother.
  • Leaving work or maternity leave.
  • Lifestyle changes often including more financial pressures.
  • Fatigue and not having enough sleep.
  • Challenges of caring for a new baby along with other responsibilities.
  • Significant physical changes to a woman’s body (e.g., weight gain, changes to the breasts).
  • Significant changes in hormone levels.

Therefore, even if everything goes “as planned” with the pregnancy, birth and first few months of the baby’s life, these changes and challenges can make a woman vulnerable to depression.

Also, some women who have previously taken medications for depression or anxiety may choose to stop taking their medications prior to or during pregnancy, in some cases, this may lead to an increase in anxiety symptoms during pregnancy and the postpartum.

A woman is at higher risk of developing depression during pregnancy or following the birth of the baby if she

  • Has had depression or anxiety in the past.
  • Has taken medication for depression or anxiety and stops before/during pregnancy.
  • Has family member(s) who have had depression or anxiety.
  • Has problems in her relationships with partner, friends and family.
  • Experienced or is experiencing violence and/or abuse.
  • Has poor practical and/or emotional support from friends, family and community.
  • Her or others around her have unrealistic expectations of herself as a mother.
  • Finds herself alone a lot of the time and/or separated from loved ones.
  • Has immigrated to Canada within the last 5 years.
  • Has a low income, education, lack of adequate housing or employment.
  • Has had a recent stressful life event (e.g., death of a parent, housing issues).
  • Relies on alcohol, drugs, or other substances to help her deal with things.
  • Has had a complicated pregnancy and/or birth
  • She or her baby had or have health problems.

Treatment Option

Although there are many different types of psychotherapy, the ones that have been shown by research studies to be most effective for the treatment of depression during pregnancy and following the birth are Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT) and Interpersonal Psychotherapy (IPT). These types of therapy involve regular appointments with a psychotherapist who provides psychological treatment for depression.

What is Cognitive-Behaviour Therapy (CBT)?

Cognitive-behaviour therapy combines two effective types of therapy – behaviour therapy and cognitive therapy.

  • Behavior therapy focuses on getting you active in your life again. The aim is to decrease behaviours that make the symptoms worse (e.g. staying in bed when you are not sleeping or avoiding social interactions) and increase behaviours that reduce the symptoms (e.g. getting dressed, getting exercise, staying connected with important people in your life).
  • Cognitive therapy helps to:
    *Identify patterns of thinking (cognition) or self-talk which upset you or lead to negative behaviours and
    *Learn ways to challenge these thoughts when they arise and replace them with more accurate and fair thoughts

The real strength of Cognitive-Behaviour Therapy is that it focuses on building skills to help people to take an active role in reducing their depression symptoms. This can help to prevent future episodes of depression.

 The Cognitive Behaviour Therapy Model of Depression

If you look closely, you may have noticed that the symptoms of depression can be divided into four major categories; thought, feelings, behaviours, and physical symptoms. Each of these categories influences the others, as we will see. You will also notice that you want to consider what is happening in your life right now as that can also influence your symptoms of depression in each category.